<i>“</i>Sirha ra Wansati Rile Vukatini<i>”</i>: An exploration of factors contributing to Tsonga women’s persistence in unfavorable marriages

Abstract

This literature-based study, titled “Sirha ra Wansati Rile Vukatini,” a Xitsonga word meaning “the strength or endurance of a woman lies in her marriage,” examines the contemporary variables influencing Tsonga women’s choices to persist in unsatisfactory marriages. This study examines the socio-cultural and economic background of Munghonghoma Village within the Greater Giyani Municipality, Mopani District, employing an exploratory qualitative methodology based on current literature regarding gender, culture, and marital dynamics among Tsonga women. Literature review findings indicate that Tsonga women frequently endure unsatisfactory marriages due to economic reliance, entrenched cultural norms, and apprehension regarding the social shame linked to divorce or separation. Emotional bonds with their spouses and apprehension for their children's welfare also influence their choices to remain. Literature suggests that several Tsonga women endure diverse forms of physical, mental, and financial abuse, which compromise their entire well-being. The study suggests that ingrained patriarchal practices, gender inequity, and restricted economic empowerment persist in perpetuating women's vulnerability inside marriage. It advises that governmental entities, religious organisations, and community stakeholders establish initiatives that foster women's empowerment, economic autonomy, and awareness of their rights to mitigate the normalisation of abuse condoned by the cultural ideal of “Sirha ra Wansati Rile Vukatini.”.

Keywords: {'name': 'Marriage, Sirha ra wansati rile vukani, culture, marriage, tsonga, divorce, women'}

Authors & affiliations

Given Shilaluke
University of Venda

Dolphin Mabale
University of Venda

Hundzukani P Khosa-Nkatini
University of Venda

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