The well-being of secret children of paternal infidelity: A pastoral- theological and counselling perspective

Abstract

Children resulting from father adultery frequently inhabit intricate social, emotional, and spiritual dimensions within their homes. This study employs a pastoral-theological and counselling approach to analyse the well-being of children conceived during father extramarital relationships. It examines the diverse issues these children encounter, including as identity development, familial acceptance, moral and spiritual guidance, and emotional stability. The study aims to comprehend how the church and religious communities may assist these children and their families by utilising theological ideas, pastoral care frameworks, and pertinent counselling theories. Literature review methods to gain in-depth insights into lived experiences. The results underscore the necessity for empathetic pastoral and counselling interventions, ethical familial practices, and spiritual support to alleviate the psychosocial problems linked to paternal infidelity. This study integrates theological contemplation with practical pastoral care and counselling interventions, contributing to scholarly discourse and faith-based approaches to family issues, while emphasising the overall emotional, moral, and spiritual well-being of affected children. The study advocates for knowledgeable pastoral approaches that foster healing, resilience, and spiritual development among intricate family dynamics..

Keywords: {'name': 'Paternal infidelity, secret children, pastoral care, theological reflection, child well-being, psychosocial development, family dynamics, counselling'}

Authors & affiliations

Hundzukani Khosa-Nkatini
University of Venda

Lebogang Moeti
University of Botswana

Bakadzi Moeti
University of Botswana

Tshenolo Jennifer Madigele
University of Botswana

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